When you do them regularly, it actually becomes easier, so stick with it. If you can start building time for some mindful moments, that will make a huge difference. Sit outside on your balcony, go for a walk or just sit on your bed for five minutes and challenge yourself to notice one new thing in your immediate surroundings. Take in the details and be present with what you are noticing.
Then I would say to cultivate self-awareness. Spend time identifying your values, and learning what motivates you and makes you tick. Question your “why” for what you’re doing – from “Why am I stopping to buy coffee?” to “Why do I live where I live?”It’s about taking yourself off of auto-pilot, which is a place our brains love to go.
It’s a common misconception that monks are so detached that they don’t feel anxiety or any emotions. Monks feel all kinds of feelings. The difference is that they are trained to trace those feelings to the root and not react based on the initial experience of those feelings. I learnt to make fear my friend instead of trying to ignore it. We learn that, yes, some aspects of fear are not helpful, but some are.
We’re living in a time of uncertainty – how would a monk handle this anxiety?
Sometimes there are lessons that anxiety is alerting us to, and if we stop burying it, we can trace those feelings to their root and address what’s really there.
Mental health advocate Sam Frost opens up about how she deals with depression and anxiety.
As monks, we used a tool I describe in the book called “weeds and seeds” to clarify our intention. The idea is that when you plant a seed, it can grow into a tree that can provide something beautiful for others: shade, shelter and fruit. A broad intention such as love, compassion or service is a seed.
Author, podcaster and former monk Jay Shetty reveals why meditation and “weeding” your thoughts can help you lead a less stressful life.
If something is a seed, feed it and find a way to help it to grow, if it is a weed, ask yourself how you might turn it into a seed (some weeds are beautiful!) and create something from it that is useful, or just let it go.
…….as an extension of those thoughts….
‘The day you plant the seed is not the day you eat the fruit. Be patient. Be humble. Keep moving forward and know that all this hard work you’re putting in day in and day out WILL produce the results you’ve been looking for. Your time is coming. Do not give up.’ Anon
I love anything that is simple to remember and use, so that I can pass it onto my clients and friends and more importantly that I can use it myself.
Be aware of your thoughts about the day and as you acknowledge each one, ask yourself ‘Are they seeds or weeds?’
I was listening to a podcast last week, where Russell Brand interviewed Jay Shetty and it was full of great insights, there were two words that have stuck with me since listening to it and that is that when you wake in the morning (or at any time when you have a moment to reflect)
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